My path into unfamiliar territory

I’ve never been the kind of person who is all about the destination. I like to chase a few rabbits now and then. I enjoy stopping to smell the flowers along the way. But at the same time I’m not one to get bogged down in the past or present. I’m usually eager to move right along after this part is done (just try taking me to the zoo. I can get you in and out in an hour.).

For a long time I felt like this was a bad thing. Especially early on, while people were planning out their lives, where they would be in five years, in ten, I was making baby steps without much purpose. Meandering my way through life. And, quite frankly, enjoying it that way. I never really took myself seriously in anything I did.

Now I know God has designed a special path just for me. There’s one for you too. Mine doesn’t look like yours and that’s just fine. I often tell my kids, you don’t just have to go down the same trail your whole life. For a while I did some teaching, then I got a degree in writing and now it’s photography.

The thing about me is I always approach my ideas with a good bit of humor and internal scoffing:

“Teaching? Really. You don’t even like kids. And you’re really not that smart.”

“Writing? That’s crazy. What will you do with a writing degree?”

“So, you’ve got a blog. Just don’t expect anyone to read it.”

“So you like to take pictures? Big deal. Where can that go?”

Yeah, that’s my head talking to me. Don’t you wish you had one like it?

Last year, I took a risk. I kept telling myself it wasn’t a risk. It was just a thing. A small thing. No big deal if it didn’t work out. No loss. No worries. I’m not a risk-taker at heart. I stay on the familiar path.

But, it WAS a risk. It’s a risk because I hope it will fun/extraordinary/profitable/rewarding/life-changing.

I started my own business this year. And guess what? I love it. I’m passionate about it. It makes me giddy when I’m working on it, whether I’m filing papers, creating marketing products or actually using my camera. And because I care so much about it and the success of it, it’s a risk. A risk that no one will hire me and I’ll feel like my art is useless. A risk that I’ll make a mistake and people will realize I’m human. A risk that I’ll never be able to balance it all and the laundry truly will take over my world.

But I’m doing it anyway and it’s one of the most exciting things I’ve ever done.

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ps: this is linked up with The Nester’s National Take a Risk Day.

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  • Anonymous

    And I am so inspired by you. Because I feel that same thrill. I had no idea that photography would take over my heart the way it has. And I hope someday to take that risk also, but right now I am terrified.

  • http://www.rainingsilence.com/ Rambling Heather

    I am thrilled to have stumbled here this morning from your link on Nesters site. I cant get enough of your homeschool posts!

  • http://www.impartinggrace.com Richella @ Imparting Grace

    I’m glad you risked it, Melissa! And I hope it’s everything you’ve dreamed of. If you can take photos as well as you write, I’d say you’re in for wild success!

  • Cat Moore

    i have those same thoughts go thru my head. you’re so talented. just a little encouragement today. :)

  • http://www.justonedonna.com Justonedonna

    So many people get stuck on one path. They let those voices in their head keep them on the safe path. It’s not easy to stray from what you know. I’m on to new adventures in my life as well. I taught for several years then moved on and spent too many years as a corporate warrior. Now I’m working on finding my bliss. You’ve inspired me once again! Thanks.

  • Anonymous

    I have to say, when I got more intentional about reading other people’s blogs, I started subscribing to a bunch of them, yours included. Over time, I found that many do not hold my interest but I continue to enjoy yours and look forward to the posts. Part of the reason is the way you chronicle your daily journey in such a casual, familiar style. It makes me feel like I know you and that we would be friends IRL. The other reason is of course your gorgeous photos! I aspire to take photos as good as yours some day (once I bite the bullet and get a DSLR). I wish I lived in your neck of the woods – I would love to be your photog client!

  • http://princapecos.blogspot.com/ Suzanne

    I think this is my favorite post I’ve read from you so far, Melissa. Thanks for giving us this glimpse into your journey. One of my most difficult lessons to learn — and relearn — is that life is full of seasons. Family needs ebb and flow, personal interests ebb and flow, life ebbs and flows. Through it all, God’s grace is sufficient — and sometimes, yes sometimes, He even allows for extra blessings such as finding that an interest becomes a giftedness, and that our giftedness can be a blessing to others. This is what I see in you. And the really cool thing is that — it seems to me — your teaching experience, your training in writing, and your love of photography, family, and beauty have all come together at this season in your life in a wonderful way. I think you see this, too — hence the passion that makes you willing to take risks.

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful season with us.

  • http://www.partofthemiracles.blogspot.com/ Beth

    Love it and really admire you!

  • http://bunny-trails.blogspot.com Dianne – Bunny Trails

    Great inspiration, Melissa. Why is it so hard, sometimes, to just step out and try? You’re awesome.

  • http://bunny-trails.blogspot.com Dianne – Bunny Trails

    Great inspiration, Melissa. Why is it so hard, sometimes, to just step out and try? You’re awesome.

  • Probablytracy

    Congrats!

  • http://www.sixbrickshigh.com Jamie @ Six Bricks High

    I’m so happy for you! I have taken some risks and experienced some serious defeat. I told myself I was going to stop taking risks, thinking my heart will feel safer there. Safe, maybe, but settled? not at all. God is speaking quietly to this heart of mine and today He used your words to do so. I’ll pray for you and your new adventure. Growth always comes from the risk taking.

  • http://hikingtowardhome.blogspot.com/ Sharon@HikingTowardHome

    Awesome. I am working toward a similar goal. Just not in portrait photography. Thought I would throw painting in along with it… but that paper is still blank. Literally. On the upside, I am now on a self hosted blog with a template that is photo friendly. One step at a time.
    You have lots of talent Melissa. I enjoy every aspect of it that you show us here in this space. Glad you chose to risk it.

  • http://www.thejoyfulchaos.com Suzanne ~ TheJoyfulChaos

    I missed this – LOVE it! mega inspiring!

  • Heather Mullin

    Very inspiring! Thanks for sharing!

  • Flower Patch Farmgirl

    You rule the schnizzle-school.

    (In case you couldn’t tell, that’s a HIGH compliment.) ;)

    I’m proud of you!

  • http://bigreddriver.blogspot.com/ Kate

    Life would be so stagnate without risks. Yours sounds fun!

  • http://www.themommymatters.net Courtney K

    Love this post…I so needed to read this today. I’m not much of a risk-taker either, and tend to be the person that convinces myself that, while I may absolutely LOVE something, I won’t be disappointed when something doesn’t work out. I think it’s GREAT that you took the risk toward something you love. I’m in the process of doing the same and I love it!

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    thanks! i’m exactly the same way. i try not go get too hung up on one idea so i won’t be disappointed.

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    thanks girl! :)

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    one step at a time is so very true! it sometimes seems when you hear someone’s story that they just started everything and it was awesome from the start, but everything takes one tiny step at a time. i appreciate your kind words.

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    thank you for saying that. i hope you will take a risk again. it’s scary and exhilarating.

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    thanks dianne.

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    thank you beth.

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    seasons is the perfect word! yes. we don’t have to do it all at once and sometimes we have to wait till the right time to do what we want. i appreciate your kind words.

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    thank you!

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    oh thanks for saying that. i appreciate you commenting.

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    thanks. i can always use it.

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    kind words richella. thank you.

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    well thank you. i’m not sure there’s anything useful in there. i can’t remember.

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    thanks friend!

  • http://profiles.google.com/laurasims7 Laura Sims

    Risks are SCARY, but usually worth it in the long run. At least that’s what I’m telling myself. I’ve started a curriculum consignment shop and it excites me yet scares me. :O)

    BTW: do you have any suggestions on a good site to get business cards printed?

    ~Laura

  • the Blah Blah Blahger

    I’m sure thankful that we all have our own paths and that we’re not meant to all be doing the same thing at the same time! I love your post and have always felt that you have a sense of purpose, priority, and direction. Good for you for pushing through the negative voices in your head and following your passions! Variety is the spice of life!!! : )

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    laura, i love overnightprints.com. they are not really overnight :) , but
    they are on great feeling paper and you can get rounded edges which i love.
    right now their business cards are 46% off. i recommend downloading their
    template from the start to design on because if you design it with just the
    sizes then upload it and some of it’s cut off it’s a huge time waste. ask me
    how i know.

  • Emily

    Yes yes yes!!!! I don’t think I can say anything else but YES!

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    thanks for those enthusiastic encouraging words!

  • http://thepleatedpolkadot.blogspot.com melissa

    do what you love sweet friend! lovely photo!

  • http://profiles.google.com/laurasims7 Laura Sims

    Thanks! ;O)

  • Susankeller

    I so relate to what you’ve written. I wish you all the best in your new business!!! :-)

  • http://www.restinginthemystery.blogspot.com Heidiray42

    I am at this exact place in my life. And I’m terrified! Yet also so so SO ready! Thanks for this…I needed to hear it today. :)

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    thanks susan! i appreciate you commenting.

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    oh i’m glad. i’m always surprised when my words encourage someone else so it’s good to hear that.

  • http://afamiliarpath.com/ Melissa Stover

    thanks for saying that.

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