Dangerous reading

sunlight behind wooden fence

Today I opened Shurley English (book 2) to begin another lesson with my 3rd grade son and then I sat it aside with a “why bother” attitude. You know what happened? Yesterday during quiet reading time I curled up on the couch with John Holt’s essay, “How Teachers Make Children Hate Reading” from On Education. Reading something like that can be a dangerous thing. It can make you toss out jingles like: a sentence sentence sentence is complete complete complete when five simple rules it meets meets meets, in favor of five minutes of something new called free writing. I’d never done it with my third grader before and you know why? Because he doesn’t know all the words.

He doesn’t know a good many of the words that he knows even. But we did it anyway. He wrote, carefully sounding out each word and asking for help on just a couple. At the end he suggested we make it a real sentence and so he added a period then encouraged me to read it aloud. He was very proud. And I wondered why not knowing all the words held me back from letting him write.

Can I tell you something? My dearly beloved homeschooled kids don’t like to read.

They love to be read to. They beg to be read to. Even the big ones. They love to hear stories and listen to books on cds and can be motivated to read a book on their own and even enjoy it if it’s the right book. But they seldom pick up a book to read in the car for enjoyment like I do or stay curled up in a chair all afternoon because they just can’t put that Nancy Drew book down (like I did). It makes me sad. And I’m pretty sure I went horribly wrong during that painful tug of war time called teaching them to read.

I swear to set things right.

John Holt has encouraged me.

  • Mimi

    Well, this post encouraged me…in so many ways. I’ve been reading The Writer’s Jungle and trying to let go of teaching my boys formulaic writing. Formulaic anything,really. I dream of lazy afternoons where we all are reading. Sigh. They DO like being read to,and like reading if it’s a book of their choice. Anyway,thanks for sharing.

  • Janette Wright

    Oh I know this feeling…in fact I didn’t think any of my kids would ever read once they graduated…three of the four were boys…and you know what? They do! They read what they are interested in. So even though I didn’t see it in the early days it was embedded in them for the future.
    I read…their Dad doesn’t….he hasn’t finished a book that i know of in all our married life….some do and some don’t…now to see what my last two will do.
    Blessings as you continue your journey..be encouraged,
    Now I can’t get that jingle out of my head….oh my, so many years of that….LOL

  • Momofthree

    My seven year old loves to be read to but when she was five and six and was able to read a bit herself she still did not want to do any of the reading. She would get very upset when she didn’t know a word and we stopped to try to figure it out.
    Eventually I smartened up! She would read and I would just say any word that stumped her. I didn’t make her sound anything out or figure it out in context or anything like that. She would pause, I would say the word and she would continue. At first I was filling in a lot of words, even ones I knew that she knew but she was really getting into the stories and enjoying herself. She was also looking at the words I read as I said them. After about two months I noticed that she was finally starting to say more of the words on her own and now I very rarely help her out and she is more open to trying a harder word before getting me to say it.
    After reading the essay that you mentioned I can say that I have seen it work! I have never pushed her to read a book without me sitting beside her but a few months ago I found her in a corner with a Magic Treehouse book that we had read together. She has a big smile on her face and told me she was almost done reading it on her own. I’m sure she skipped some words and that there were some she didn’t understand but that smile was pretty awesome.